Tomorrow I will be 35 weeks pregnant
In 4 weeks time I will be picking a day to be induced
All being well
And assuming our Sprinkle does not decide to make an early entrance
We still have lots to do to get ready for our little lady
Practical house things
As well as exciting things such as washing and sorting clothes
Packing hospital bags
Building cribs and creating safe sleep spaces
In the next 4 weeks though
There are some things I would like to do for me
Things that due to lack of time and money
I will most likely not be able to do
But in a perfect world
This is what I would love to be able to do
Get my eyebrows threaded
Get my haircut
Have a pedicure
Take Esther for lunch and to the cinema to see Beauty and the Beast
Have some one to one time with William perhaps at a local board game cafe
Have a day out with David without our children
See Stepping Out and have dinner with my best friend
Take some bump photos in the bluebells
Do something special to honour Matilda Mae’s 5th birthday on 2nd May
Have a day to myself to sort my head and thoughts and do some writing
Quite a lot to fit in to four weeks
Especially when I do not get any time to myself as my children are at home with me all the time
And I have less than no money to my name
But in a different world
I would love a chance to do these things
This is the last four weeks
Of my last ever pregnancy
I will never ever be pregnant again
And I am feeling very emotional about that
I love having a bump
I love the anticipation of waiting for baby
I love being pregnant
I love being a mummy
But just for a little while
A snippet
A snapshot
A fragment of time
I would welcome some time to be me
Oh gosh, I do hope you get a chance to do at least some of these. I know how you feel about not getting any time to yourself, it’s so difficult and I only have two children so it must be much harder for you. Also, I LOVE that top you are wearing in the photo, you totally do rock the bump!
Nat.x
I have to agree with David here, and think that where there is a will there’s a way! You should just do these things. I understand the childcare thing, but there must be ways around it.
David’s parents live nearby – surely they’d take the children for a full day, or even a night? Bea might not want to sleepover given she is still transitioning out of your bed, but I bet the twins would LOVE camping on Granny’s floor in the living room.
Also your best friend – I’m sure she’d be more than happy to take the kids to the park for a few hours or play with them in your garden, whilst you go for your eyebrows and haircut, then you could drop them at Granny’s and pop out for your solo lunch.
The best parenting advice I have ever been given is ASK for help with childcare. People are willing to give it, but don’t always think to offer. I have no doubt that David’s family and your best friend would be so willing. Imagine if it was the other way round, and a friend asked if she could drop her kids with you for a few hours to get some things done – you wouldn’t hesitate to say yes! Good luck – ASK and you WILL get! xxx
You are right, they would all help I just need to not feel guilty about asking and know that it is okay to sometimes say I need some time x And David is always right, it is very annoying but true. He has a very sensible head on his shoulders and a HUGE heart x