Not Just The Lady Whose Baby Died

Well I did it.

I went to Brit Mums Live and faced 500 people, most of whom I had not seen since the day that Tilda died.

Many of whom I had never seen before at all.

A few who are fast becoming the friends I will hang on to with hands and heart for the rest of my life.

Going to Brit Mums without Matilda Mae was not an easy thing to do.

And I am so grateful to the people who helped me get there.

Ensured I stayed

And held my hand along the way.

And all the tears and all the cuddles

Proved to be exactly what I needed.

At times I was desperately sad

Just once I had to run out of a room

Mostly I realised that these beautiful, wonderful people

Have taken me and my blog baby to their hearts

And I am not just that lady whose baby died.

Thank you x

33 thoughts on “Not Just The Lady Whose Baby Died

  1. It was lovely to be able to give you a hug. You were so brave and did so, so well.

    Thank you for what you said. It has been on my mind for a very long time.

    Much love Jennie xx

  2. You are a mother to three beautiful children – and you are Jennie, the bright, witty, intelligent, caring, gentle woman who is a friend, a sibling, a daughter, a wife, an educator, a woman with passions and interests and love and drive and so, so much to give to the world.

    Being a mother to three children is a part of who you are – but it doesn’t define you.

    So losing Tilda won’t define you or become you either. Many people know you and your story because losing Tilda is so big and the reach of her small life has spread so far and touched so many. She is in the hearts and thoughts of thousands of people in thousands of homes every day – as are you. You are her Mummy. Many people know you because of Tilda. Many people found you through Tilda.

    But you are still Jennie. And that’s ok. You can be all the other things that you are, every second, and it will never, could never, ever, mean that Tilda and the twins are not your world – but you are still Jennie.

    I am glad that I met you, and I hope that we meet again, often, and as well as sharing hugs and tears we can share passion and learning and laughter. You are a wonderful woman.

  3. You did a brave thing coming this weekend and I am so glad you had a good time and met some of the incredible friends who have been supporting you. I am so glad I got to meet you just after Katie Pipers talk, I know you had run out and I wanted to just come and give you a hug- I am sorry if it was a bit too long, I just didn’t want to let you go.
    I think you are a beautiful (inside and out) inspiring woman. I have always loved your blog and your writing, and it was one of the first I ever read. Your passion for helping children learn and also the love for your children has always stood out for me. Xx

  4. No you are not! You are Jennie; Jennie the mother, Jennie the wife, Jennie whose baby died, Jennie who was a cracking teacher, Jennie who does good play prompts, Jennie who is a stunner in her sequin top from Next, Jennie who is a friend, Jennie who is Jennie.

    I’m glad you had a good time, and I’m glad you cried. And I know that sounds weird, but as I said to you last night, I think this is just what you needed to do.

  5. I’m so glad you went – it has been lovely to meet you. And you are just as I expected, funny and clever and warm. And you are baby Tilda’s Mummy – you will always be the lady who is that xx

  6. Jennie, you were amazing and I’m so glad you went. It was great to see you. I wholeheartedly agree with everything said above, you are SO much more. Glad it has been good for you. Xx

  7. It was lovely to meet you at last! You are definitely not just the lady whose baby died, noway. You are so so much more than that. You are a fantastic lady for many many reasons!

  8. Everywhere I went this weekend, I heard people talking about how nice, friendly and lovely you were and how keen those who hadn’t met you were to meet you. I’m only sorry we didn’t get more time to chat. x

  9. Dear Jennie

    It was lovely to meet you briefly and I am so pleased you attended. You are an amazing woman and inspiration to so many and should be so proud of yourself.

    Natalie x

  10. You can never be just that, Jennie. You can never be just anything in fact. I only wish I’d been able to spend more time with you but I always knew that Sue would be by your side helping you through it. The time I did get with you I will always hold close to my heart and I didn’t want to say goodbye at the station on Saturday evening. You will always be Jennie to me – an amazing mother and a wonderful friend xx

  11. Of course you are not just the lady whose baby died Jennie. You are a remarkable woman anyway! I’m so sad I decided not to come this year, was thinking of you lots though x well done for going, and staying, and being amazing! xxx

  12. You never were, and never will be “just the lady whose baby died”. You are so much more to so many people – not least your other children and husband.

    Sorry I wasn’t there to meet you, but I hope we meet soon.


  13. So very happy I got to see you albeit for a moment only and so glad it was a positive experience for you. I know it must have been difficult but you were surrounded by love and people concerned that you were ok, big hugs to you and very well done

  14. I spotted you many times over the weekend before we finally said spoke…. and almost always you were smiling and it was so heart warming to see.
    The community has taken you and Tilda to their hearts because you have opened your heart to them – in darkest times and in your journey forward.
    Yours is a wonderful smile, from someone who deserves to smile again.
    Am so pleased you were there Jennie, it wouldn’t have been the same without you.

  15. You are brave, beautiful, amazing, talented Jennie. I am so privileged to have met you, and to have cried alongside you.

    You are mummy to Tilda, forever. And still Mummy to your beautiful twins too. And we are always here when you need us, for a hug, a tissue, a reassuring hand in yours.

  16. I’m so glad to have had the chance to meet you, to hug you, to tell you how sorry I am for the loss of your beautiful baby girl. Sorry that I couldn’t hold back the tears though. It was great to swap toddler “challenges” experiences with you though too and I look forward to more meet-ups and chatting in the future :-) xxx

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